Are You Planning For A Marriage Or Just A Wedding? Rishta advice

There are young people who are looking for a grand party in their life just to celebrate something big. They want to look like a prince and feel special and what else can be the day other than your shadi. This is the big day that carries the illusion of dreams being fulfilled. But in reality a mature man or woman would not fall in the trap of wedding bells because they know that with a wedding ceremony there comes a bundle of responsibilities. Women in our culture are trained in a way where they have been thought to deal with the marital responsibilities in their early age. Contrarily, men in our society take and feel the responsibility until they are in their mid-30. This is the sole reason that you find women crying for their husband’s attitude toward taking responsibility. Self-analysis is a crucial part before getting married. Asking questions like if I am financially ready to get married, if I have developed habits of family man. If I can compromise on my friends and can give time to my wife and children. And what if not, the answer comes that you are not ready then there is no suggestion that you must refrain from shaadi but you should start preparing yourself to get married in your late 20’s or early 30’s. In the backdrop of our society, there is a need to prepare our youth to get married not late then 30’s due to various social issues.

What is a marriage?

Marriage is the opposite of a wedding. You are into marriage if you are more excited not about the video and pictures of your function, photo-shoot, royal treatment but because of the new life ahead full of challenges. So you must be sure that you are going to be married, not just wedded in the sacred lock because it has several responsibilities.

· It’s your moral, religious and social responsibility to keep your wedding right. Some of them, especially male spouses, feel single right after marriage and feel the wife as a responsibility of his family. That’s incorrect of your behavior and attitude if you are feeling such

· There are kids in the future, this should be in your mind. If you said I do in your Nikah then it is tantamount to the fact that you are going to have kids soon in the near future as you are going to be a family man. So prepare yourself

· You are supposed to save money for your family. Make yourself financially strong and it is not becoming rich but wise on finance grounds. And yes there is a difference between a mere wedding and marriage. Have a marriage not a mere wedding. Your soul should be present in the function of your wedding. Don’t be hard on yourself. Enjoy and savor each moment of your life ahead of your marriage with your loved one. have a happy marriage.